You’re not alone
From now on, it’s us against the problem.
Conflicts happen, let’s use that to our advantage.
Everyone experiences conflict. Whether it’s a pattern you’ve seen from your parents, or something that you can’t seem to find a break in with your partner or friends—conflict is out there. My goal is to mediate conflict in a healthy way and provide tools for you to be able to use in your day to day life.
Causes for conflict:
Poor Communication:
Most often, poor communication comes from: misinformation, lack of information, and lack of clarity or context. Some ways we can resolve this is learning to first understand how we feel and being able to name it. Once we understand ourselves, we can translate that to communicating how we feel. We have to be careful to do this tactfully or else we can run into issues of people misunderstanding us.
Here we will explore how to understand ourselves and then translate that letting other people know how we feel so they can understand us. Only then can we start to resolve our issues.
Clash of Values:
Everybody has opinions, and everyone wants to be right. In our day and age, we have to learn how to live with people that have different values and opinions than us. Our job isn’t to try to change other people, or even conform ourselves, rather, we understand what core values we have and use those to make our daily decisions.
Our goal in conflict resolution is to get used to using “I” statements to express ourselves. Then other people can process how we feel and understand what certain things mean to us.